Being a business leader is an emotionally demanding job. Whether you are balancing company priorities, managing interpersonal conflict, or motivating your team, leadership can play an emotional toll on your work, and your state of mind. But a shift in your mental approach can help. Here is how you can use acceptance to become a more emotionally intelligent leader. Doing so can help you and your team improve performance and your subjective happiness with your work.
What Acceptance Means in Business Leadership
Grit, persistence, perseverance and resilience are all signs of a good leader because they are traits of someone who refuses to be beaten by their circumstances. But somewhere along the way, you may have learned that if you accept your situation, you are giving up on making your situation better. When viewed through that lens, acceptance becomes a kind of passive surrender, and for many, can lead to stagnation or even burnout.
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But viewed differently, acceptance can play an important role in business leadership, and can actually keep you moving forward in your business and personal development. This form of acceptance is a commitment to dealing with your circumstances, and the emotions caused by them, in realistic terms. It doesn’t mean you have to like the place you find yourself. Nor does it mean you must remain in that place. Instead, acceptance gives business leaders a reality check, so you can proceed with your eyes open to the truth about your situation, rather than operating on assumptions or false beliefs.
The Role of Acceptance in Emotional Intelligence
Acceptance is a fundamental part of the key business leadership skillset of emotional intelligence. Emotional acceptance means acknowledging the presence of emotions, both good and bad. You can’t avoid emotions at work. As a business leader, how you respond to those emotions, in yourself and those around you, can significantly impact your own wellbeing and your team’s effectiveness.
Once you can identify those emotions, you can then investigate their origin and any external influences, so that you can more thoughtfully respond to them. As a business leader, being able to accept circumstances and emotions in your workplace is key to being able to address obstacles, resolve conflict, and create a peaceful and collaborative working environment.
The Benefits of Emotional Acceptance
There are many ways in which emotional acceptance can make you a better business leader.
Improved Emotional Regulation
Emotional regulation is one of the core five skills under the umbrella of emotional intelligence. It allows you to control your emotions and prevent them from affecting your work, even in the face of conflict or change. The role of acceptance in emotional regulation comes from accurately identifying the emotions you are feeling and the reasons for them. This gives you the emotional distance to help you decide how to respond, rather than acting on impulse. By accepting the reality of your emotional state you can take control of your emotional responses and improve interpersonal interactions at work.
Reduced Inner Conflict and Self-Blame
The archetype of a good business leader has historically been conveyed as a stoic man who is above the stresses and emotions of the workplace. The truth is that no leader is truly unflappable. Denying, repressing, or avoiding emotions in the name of stoicism or putting on a professional face can increase inner conflict, shame, and guilt. When emotions go unresolved, they can fester and negatively affect your mental wellbeing, which in turn affects your ability to respond to challenges at work. By acknowledging and accepting your emotions, you can quiet that inner struggle and offer yourself the compassion you need to process strong emotions and move forward as a business leader.
Increased Authenticity and Personal Growth
Emotional acceptance is a key first step to authenticity both with yourself and your team. If you can be honest with yourself about how you are feeling in a difficult situation, you can more clearly identify obstacles, and what it will take to allow you to move forward in an emotionally healthy way. You may even be able to use your emotions to guide your personal growth and professional development.
For example, imagine that, as a manager, you find yourself putting off your monthly reporting month after month. Adopting emotional acceptance could allow you to identify the anxiety you have over doing the math properly or correctly accounting for all the variables. This, in turn, could show you the need for additional training on these aspects of your work, so you can become a more effective business leader.
Reduced Stress
Acceptance can also help you reduce the often-substantial stress that comes with being a business leader. Stress is often covert, building over time in ways you may not recognize until you are overwhelmed. However, your own emotions and behaviors may be giving you signals that you are under stress. Acceptance can help you recognize those stress signals, so you can take steps to respond to the cause of the stress and implement coping mechanisms that will keep the strain from negatively affecting your work or your team.
Improved Resilience and Positive Mindset
The other side of stoicism is that, more recently, business professionals have felt an obligation to be happy at work. It is true that a positive mindset is a key part of business success, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have an authentic negative emotional response to adverse circumstances. That is where acceptance comes in. Accepting when things go badly, and addressing the negative emotions you and your team experience in the face of conflict can help you build resilience and trust. Your team members will come to expect that, even when things are bad, you will acknowledge and validate their feelings, and then find a way to reframe the issue, so you all can focus on solutions instead of sadness, disappointment or anger.
How to Incorporate Acceptance Into Your Leadership Strategies
Acceptance plays a big role in being an emotionally intelligent business leader. It provides the foundation to many emotional intelligence skills and allows you to be more honest and authentic with yourself and your team. But just like all skills, emotional acceptance requires practice and guidance to perfect. Working with a leadership and executive coach to develop your ability to accept what you are feeling and why can be the key to opening up a world of opportunities to develop your own professional growth.
David Stanislaw and Karen Sherwood are leadership and executive coaches with 70 years of combined experience. Together, they apply their psychodynamic training and extensive experience to help leaders, business owners, and employees develop skills to fight burnout and improve performance. Contact us to meet with Stanislaw Consulting today.
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